A lot of people here understandably didn't like your post bit I think I understand what you mean. Because of the hardships of this unfair burden that most of us had to carry for our whole lives, we have grown a lot psychologically from it. Because we spent so many hours trying to figure out the best way to approach people and to speak and react in a social situation, our EQ grows as well, and we become better at understanding other people's suffering because we had to go through something hard ourselves. OP os trying to say something like "You can choose to give up, or to pull through this, accept it as it is, and come out the other side stronger psychologically and emotionally". Not letting ourselves be overtaken by the problem is what can make us ablot stronger in all these aspects. I think if you put it this way it's a very nice thing to say. It's not that some of us are better than others, but we all have our path to go, different for everyone, and we'll all get through this eventually and we'll gain tons of skills in the way.