commentr/StutterSeptember 10, 2018

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Take this as a great starting point- You ACCEPTED and embraced your stutter during the time in our lives that we are least confident and most self aware. That is a huge sign in my eyes that you will absolutely have a ‘normal’ life, I just can’t tell you if that will or will not include a constant severe stutter. There is so much I’d like to discuss with you about your stutter and about your life and emotional resources. The information you gave us is detailed for sure but with many of your descriptions there could be hundreds of very different persons/personalities/lives that could fit your descriptions. But I understand totally. I just became so empowered recently (via a post I decided to put on here) regarding my worth, my individualism and how I navigate stuttering as both a concept with those who by no fault of their own cannot relate, or in conversation, again with the same demographic just described. In short! I can assure you that someone with a severe stutter can absolutely live a happy and productive life (stressing how those words are wildly relative). If you want some of my own ways of surviving and thriving, some I came up with at the age of 13, others I just realized this last week after becoming a member of this reddit page and finally talking to others about it after 37 years. Unlike you, I was in public denial (quite literally at times) that I had any speech ‘issues’ until very recently. But like you and many others, anxiety pathological as well as situationally self provoking, has complicated the issue of stuttering entirely. I tend to type absurdly long posts (because I can if you catch my drift) but for the sake of all I will end this response by saying this. There is support. HERE. Free and from the best sources for an ailment that has such little scientific and social understanding. And in addition to community talk, communicated with other stutterers one on one will get you feeling better immediately for many reasons. 1st being acceptance and understanding. Once I felt I wasn’t alone in having what can accurately be described as either a brain defect or as a quirky style of speech (and everything in between) I felt the power to take control and the duty to help others so fewer fools like me suffer inside for three decades with the torment of hurt, frustration, self loathing, and sometimes rage. Message me for sure if you have any interest in starting a one to one convo. It doesn’t have to be rushed and it can go whatever course we both feel is helping us both. I’m looking for an online stutter buddy at the moment so you’d be doing me just as much of a favor than I would be. You can reach me at my Reddit handle on just about any platform. Email would be that handle at iCloud. Don’t hesitate. Life is tough but it can be everything we wished it would be.

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Community & SupportIdentity & DisabilityEmotional Experience

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Validation & EmpathyAcceptance & PrideHope & Motivation