postr/StutterJanuary 5, 2019

I just had a date after 2 year of shame of my stutter

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I just had a date after 2 year of shame of my stutter I was always afraid of going a date because of my stutter. My friend and I decided to download tinder to challenge ourselves. I don't know how to talk to girls in text, but this time was different, she messaged me and I had something to talk. But whatever. IRL was another level, I always stutter with my friends and family, but with this girl I stammer just a few times, I think she didn't even notice because was break of 1 second, this was a victory for me because usually I break for 4 seconds or even more, repeting words. But this time was different, I felt confident and every time I felt I was going to stutter I took a deep breath before speaking. My previous dates was just awkward silence for hours (seriously) because I was so afraid to speak, and because I'm shy. Just want to share this because I don't have another place to talk about this. I feel so fucking happy, after years of shyness because of my stutter I could control them.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacySocial & Relationships

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Hiding & ConcealmentPreparation & RehearsalMindset shiftDating & Romance