postr/StutterSeptember 27, 2019

I conquered one big fear today and I now I kinda feel hopeful for the future

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I conquered one big fear today and I now I kinda feel hopeful for the future I just want to share that I’ve been stuttering my whole life. I had a stutter when I was in elementary school, then when I got to high school, it kinda went away. 3 years ago, when I graduated high school, my stutter came back. I feel like I have to hide behind a curtain 24/7. Talking is so embarrassing and I wish I never had to. That makes me feel super lonely and like I have to be someone who I’m not. I feel fake and like I could be my best living life if only I talked “normal”. My favorite place is the library. I go there to read and work on my writing and my blog and to just be in peace. This one librarian is super friendly and I don’t really have friends (because I’m not social at all) and I wanted to talk to her just because. I wanted to share my thoughts on the latest book i read, but I was too scared for like a week. Today, my head was telling me no but I physically forced myself to get up and go talk to her. I kinda stuttered but it wasn’t half as bad as I thought! I tried being confident and friendly and smiling a lot and it went well. I didn’t tell her my name because I stutter SO much on it...I can’t even say it without saying “uh” right before it :/ but anyways I was sorta secretly proud of what I did today. To people who don’t stutter, it’s a piece of cake. They don’t even think about talking. To me, it was a big step. I’m glad I made myself uncomfortable and took a risk. I just wanted to share my little success with people who also stutter. Maybe this will give stutterers some hope for talking situations too? Idk but I’m also excited to talk to people who stutter too because honestly I’ve never openly admitted I stutter but yet I’ve always wanted to talk to people who’d understand.

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceCommunity & SupportEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentValidation & EmpathyHope & MotivationAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride