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Thanks for sharing - I'm really pleased you've found a solution which works for you. I just wanted to share my thoughts on your approach in case they are helpful to others. I'm a highly covert stutterer and have been since I could talk - I opened stuttered until I was 5 years old and from then onwards used these sorts of methods you've described to navigate life without ever stuttering. The issue I've found for someone like me at least (with high anxiety levels) is that these tricks and methods then dominate my thinking. So I think way too much about how I'm going to use the tricks to navigate a work presentation or how I'm going to handle introducing myself at a party etc - in short, I'm getting anxious about getting anxious!!! Whilst using these methods has helped me live a successful and happy life by most measures, I'm still deeply preoccupied by planning my speech and thinking about speaking situations. I recently concluded (at 35) that it was too much - too many hours going down speech situation rabbit holes, worrying about using my tricks etc. I've recently started a course of therapy which broadly follows Vivian Sissikin's methodology of embracing and conquering the shame of stuttering ([https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XJ\_uwi8U8kg](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XJ_uwi8U8kg)). Whilst I'm only a month in, I can say with confidence that THIS is what I needed. I'm now working at untangling the 30 years of tricks and mental gymnastics, getting comfortable with the idea of stuttering on occasion and re-purposing the hundreds of thinking hours from pointless stutter fears in to living a happier more fulfilled life. Its horses for courses - but this is what's working for me and I think its empowering to contemplate a future where I dont care about the one time a day I stutter rather than spending my entire day fearing it and planning around it. Moreover, by being OK stuttering if it happens, there is no fear that the tricks stop working and I 'relapse'. Good luck to you