Something I always always always say is acceptance doesn’t mean enjoyment. Acceptance means that you are aware it’s apart of your life (whether good or bad way) and you are doing what’s best for you in that situation. I HATE that I stutter, if I could get rid of it tomorrow I 100% would. It is annoying and frustrating and caused more issues than help. That being said, I also don’t let it get in the way of work, friendships, family, etc. it’s just an annoying thing I have to deal with as part of my life. I’m even a speech therapist and working on my PhD focusing on stuttering and trying to work on this very problem. I went to therapy for 5 years to do my best to get rid of it. Something I had to learn and accept that was it always will be part of my life, but I can do things to make my life better (like using different therapy things). I found a therapist who helped me get through the emotional frustration but also through the speech frustration too. Short answer, yes I absolutely agree that the acceptance is confused with welcoming and they shouldn’t be. I’ve been told by other people who stutter that “I don’t stutter enough” or that “I’m not a real representation of what stuttering looks like” or “I don’t get it” because I choose to use speech strategies to make my speech easier when others don’t. You are allowed to do whatever you want about your stutter and feel however you want to and that is not wrong. You can stutter freely and proudly, you can go to therapy and work on your speech. You can choose when to alternate between the two. Some days I use strategies and some days I don’t. We are individuals and capable of making individual choices that are best for us. There is NOTHING wrong with therapy. There is NOTHING wrong with wanting to have an easier time communicating. There is NOTHING wrong with being frustrated and upset by your stutter sometimes or most times. As a person who stutters and a speech therapist, I am incredibly sorry that your daughter has been pushed away from getting the help that she needs and wants, and I am truly sorry that your frustration has only increased in seeing a therapist rather than decreased. Depending on what state you live in, I can refer you to some awesome therapists and resources that do a mix of therapy to help with acceptance but also work on speech therapy too.