commentr/StutterOctober 5, 2021

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I didn’t stutter as a kid, I only started stuttering as an adult. But I would also recommend to not focus so much on his stuttering but rather focus on building him up as an assertive, expressive person. Praise him for being courageous, creative, humorous, and for engaging with other people and not avoiding his fears. It can be tempting but don’t praise him for not stuttering. Because that just sends the message to his brain that the only time his message is satisfactory is when he doesn’t stutter. This, as the person above mentioned, will ultimately create a cycle of anxiety where he only focuses on his speech. For example, don’t stop him when he’s in mid sentence and ask him to repeat a word. Then he’ll think you’re not listening to his message he’s trying to express. Let him just work on his speech while in speech therapy, but outside speech therapy let him be free Yes, it’s ok for him to work on his speech, but tell him it’s for him to feel more at ease when he speaks and to decrease struggle for him physically, if there is any physical struggle at all, such as his face contorting or his body jerking in a way that shows struggle to get the word out. But if he isn’t struggling at all, then maybe he doesn’t even need speech therapy, just my opinion. Just whatever you do, don’t make his experience about fitting in with other people, make it about empowering him to be himself. Besides, many young kids grow out of their stuttering. The book “Redefining Stuttering” by John Harrison, someone that stuttered for many years and was high up in the National Stuttering Association, even said that childhood stuttering and adult stuttering are not even the same thing, and one only feeds into the other if the child is self conscious about themselves and have a tendency to hold back their expression. If your child doesn’t notice he’s stuttering, then that’s a great start to growing out of his stuttering. But if his peers begin to notice his stuttering, tell your son that his message is more important than how it comes out. The book defines childhood stuttering as “bobulating,” while adult stuttering as “blocking.” Bobulating is not a cause for concern; it’s an effortless, un self conscious way of speaking that involves repetitions when speaking. Your child is probably just coming to terms with his newly found emotions such as excitement or confusion and this is causing repetitions in his speech. Even grown adults that would never consider themselves as someone that stutters, “bobulate” when they are nervous, excited, or confused. So if this is all that is happening then I think you don’t need to be concerned. But “blocking” (adult stuttering) is an effortful, self conscious, straining way of speaking, and a defense mechanism to avoid feelings that we don’t want to feel so we “block” them out by shutting down our own ability to express ourselves. Your child is expressing himself so just further raise him to be someone that is comfortable facing and accepting their own emotions, and accepting that other people may judge us, but to be ourselves and express our personality full fledge. Not being afraid of authority figures or anyone. I highly recommend reading “Redefining Stuttering”. You can find a link to it for free if you google search it. It will make the concepts I’m explaining more clear. I was surprised to find it for free online after seeing that the physical copies were sold out on Amazon

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Emotional ExperienceSchool & WorkIdentity & DisabilitySpeech & Stuttering

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Hope & MotivationEmployment & CareerMedicalization / NeurodiversityOnset & Life-Stage Changes