commentr/StutterSeptember 30, 2025

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>I’ve considered going to therapy but it feels useless because I’m not a typical patient. Get therapy. You are a typical patient. There are two key parts of therapy, the first is cognitive which gets your head in the right place, the second is fluency shaping to help you out of tough spots. I personally benefit most from 3-5 day intensive courses with other people that stutter. Other people do other things. Get help. >When I start to stutter uncontrollably I can see the face people make and the awkwardness I make them feel. Does it matter? It occurred to me a while ago that it doesn't. People react to what they see and sometimes I present as something unusual. When I block, I can sometimes pull a face and to someone I have just met has no idea what they are facing. I find telling people I stutter solves this problem. >I’m very out going as a person but the fear of being judged makes me acts like an asshole Stop doing this. Give people a chance. People won't want to socialise with you if you are actively pushing them away. I healthy exercise is to review your negative experiences to see if they truly were. What did you do? What did they do? What was the outcome? Personally, the main issue I have is when I don't tell people I have a stutter. I then block really badly and they think I have a mental issue or something (I guess I do :)). I then get the odd strange look. If I say I have a stutter and then struggle, I find that most people listen attentively and the situation is much more positive. It varies from country to country and assholes are always around. Being an asshole yourself is just going to isolate yourself and kill any social opportunities before they happen.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships

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Avoidance & SubstitutionMindset shiftSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesAnxiety & Social JudgmentIdentity & Self-PerceptionDisclosure & Telling Others