One thing that helped me was to re-define 'success' (number #5 that you said). I changed * old definition: 'success is fluency' to * 'success is reducing my panic caused by stuttering' and 'success is reducing: being bothered or feeling pressured by anticipatory fear'. See [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stutter/comments/xq30ey/advice_for_people_who_stutter_pws/) post for an explanation