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Hard to go back and remember it all when I was younger but my most recent one a few years back may be my worst if not one of them. I was starting sales, went to shake the ladies hand, tried to say my name...got to the word "is" and blocked so hard, my hand was out there, she didn't shake it and moved onto my co-worker, the moment she past me was the moment my name came out, like my body/mind knew the time was over. My friend was kind enough to kind of step back after and let me continue and i didn't stutter but that hurt so bad I was holding back tears after it thinking this just wasn't for me, how easy everything else is and how lucky I am to not have to do this and ready to quit in tears ready to pay my brother back for giving me the opportunity to shadow him and others with a salary but not being able to continue so I was ready to pay back my whole salary for all of those days/weeks just to get out of this. Went to a little get together the co-workers were having, pretty much cried in the car, spoke to another co-worker who didn't speak the best English but had to do this and spoke to the one who was with me who i was shadowing. The one that was with me said after shadowing my brother (who doesn't stutter and owns the company) he said when he did his first sale on his own and did that cold knock he thought his heart would come out of his chest he was so scared. The other one later said he was also very scared but had to do it. Both are very comfortable with it now and said it's actually a really easy job, you just drive around and meet clients for just a little. I realized my fear was not unreasonable, likely more than just my stutter, and that maybe I can get used to it all the same like they did even though they don't stutter. I thought maybe it is this fear that they also experienced that triggers my stutter all over again in the first place and if I can get used to that...anyway, I wiped my tears and decided I would stay with this. I would feel the fear and do it anyway. Now, I am super comfortable with clients, it's just a bother more than anything else, lol, I can care less otherwise, they are no different than anyone else. I call them with ease, meet them with ease, cold knock, smile and pretty much realized people are inherently actually really nice. The worst of it was in my own head and I conquered it by putting myself through it over and over until it was nothing but a bother, just another day and I always felt like I was just talking with the wind. At first it was very scary, then you get used to it and you just want to entertain yourself and have fun. When there's no more uncertainty, when I decided to do it either way, it got easier and easier. Remove that uncertainty and you'll start removing that fear. It's just time. But moments like those are choices in life because it's very easy to just go back into your comfort zone.