commentr/StutterJanuary 24, 2017

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Hi. I'm gonna admit something that I don't normally talk about because maybe it will help. I'm female and I'm totally turned on by guys who stutter, I mean, way beyond "it's cute." I don't normally talk about it because it's an embarrassing thing to admit, but also because I can see how it could be hurtful to people who stutter. It could seem like I get off on their suffering. That's really not it, but I imagine it could be taken that way. I'm mentioning it here because, well, first, I now know (from searching online) that I'm not the only one who has a thing for stuttering (it's not super common, but not incredibly rare either), but also just to sort of counteract some of what a lot of people are saying. That is, that for some girls, even on a so-called superficial level, it's going to be the opposite of a problem. I still remember the moment I realized it was a huge turn on for me. I was 16. I'd given a guy my phone number at a party. He didn't stutter then, but when he called me he did and I was so unexpectedly excited by it, I was just.....I don't know! I was still pretty shy back then myself, so when he sort of apologized for it, I didn't even have a way of telling him how unnecessary an apology was. I didn't end up with him, but that had nothing to do with him having a stutter. Now, in real life a stutter alone is not exactly enough for me to fall for someone. I have to like the person, of course! A couple of years ago, actually, there was a guy at a bar I was at who stuttered in a way that would normally make me crazy. But I could tell he wasn't nice, and that made it impossible for me to be turned on by his stutter. I tried to be, because it was kind of a rare opportunity (I could listen to him talking to his friend without it really being noticeable) but it just didn't work because of what I sensed about the kind of person he was. I think I'm mentioning this so I don't just sound like a freaky pervert. BUT, mgs8, my real point is that the very thing that you're afraid will be a negative with women, will, in some cases be so the opposite you wouldn't believe it. I mean, if you came up to me, first I'd be really touched that you overcame whatever fear you had about approaching me, and next I'd be hoping it didn't somehow show that I have a fetish for stuttering. Wow, I'm kind of scared to post this. I don't know what responses I'll get. But here goes.

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Social & RelationshipsIdentity & DisabilityEmotional Experience

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Dating & RomanceIdentity & Self-PerceptionHope & Motivation