The reason it is so hard to change how you express yourself IMO
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The reason it is so hard to change how you express yourself IMO Learning to be more expressive and honest in my communication, being a person who stutters, was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. And I feel understanding why it's so hard helps with the healing effect as well. So I'm going to briefly share what I have found through research, personal experience, interviews, and books. The main point is this: 👉 Our brain is designed to seek safety. We are wired for survival. That's our #1 goal. This means we have done an amazing job. You are reading this right now, you're alive.. You’re doing great! Whatever patterns you have been living in.. Keep doing that. It's clear there's limited danger here. What I mean is the repressive way of action/speaking we have engrained to bring up in certain social interactions may not feel good in the moment, but we believe it's the safest thing to do.. For a few reasons. - We believe we will avoid the most amount of judgement if we stay small - We know we wont stutter if we just don't speak - There's comfortability in patterns and since we have been acting this way for a long period of time.. It's a proven way of survival. Going against the grain is now seen as dangerous. So we must understand our brain has great intentions for us.. But it's really not living in the 21st century. We will not die if we get judged. We will not die if we stutter. And we are able to change the way we act. That is why this battle to overcome stuttering is 100% phycological. Yes we must deal with body tension as well, but the habits to maintain a reduction in body tension comes down to winning the mental battles. And they can be won. You can speak when every inch of your body tells you not to. It's hard, yes. But it builds you to become a man/woman of strong character and unbelievable self confidence. I hope me sharing the inner working of the mind behind the scenes is helpful to you as it was for me. Much love.