commentr/StutterOctober 28, 2018

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If a woman knows you stutter and also knows how you feel about women, she is definitely going to reject you. It 100% won't be because of your stutter. In fact, if I may be frank, and I don't want to cause offense, but this is just from my experience... a lot of the redpill/foreveralone/incel guys I've met in this specific stuttering community lean on their stutter as the reason why they're outcasts and unable to get women or friends or great jobs. I've gotten to know many. I don't say this lightly. Every single one of them is super wrong. It's because their personalities are fucking awful. Their stutters are literally the least of their problems. But a stutter can't be helped. Can't be cured. If people lean on their stutter as the sole reason, then the way they're rejected isn't their own fault and this requires absolutely zero self-reflection. They're free to blame the world instead of bettering themselves as human beings. It's really frustrating to speak to those people because it's almost like they don't want to make things better for themselves. Doing so would suggest some kind of agency, and they don't want to face any possession of that. At the end of the day, a stutter is just a kind of shitty way of talking. Plenty of us manage just fine, regardless of severity. So just be careful of falling down that hole.

Themes

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySchool & Work

Subthemes

Helplessness & AgencyAuthenticity vs. MaskingStigma & BullyingEmployment & Career