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I am a stutterer, and have been so almost as long as I could speak. My daughter is too. So I'm seeing her develop with it. Even my mom and dad say - "wow, it's like hearing you speak when you were little." I realized I had a stutter since probably kindergarten or 1st grade. I was and still am hyperaware of EVERYTHING. If I could give advice to my 17 year old self (and now you), I would say 1) This is pretty much as bad as it gets stutter-wise. As long as 2) you take care of your mental health and anxiety surrounding your stutter and 3) accept that it's just a small part of who you are and 4) only assholes care that you stutter. Don't be an asshole to yourself either. Now in my 30s, I'm just honest about it. Hey I stutter. I stutter on the phone more, so please be patient with me. As you get older... your world gets BIG (as long as you don't isolate yourself). And the stuttering becomes less and less important to your perspective on events. I used to obsess every day, the night before school: what was I doing that required speaking, will I have to introduce myself (yep, my name starts with one of the WORST consonant sounds), will I have to order food, will I have to take a phone call? I had to mentally prepare myself everyday for that shit. And it sucks. It's a waste of time. Today... I just don't. I had speech therapy for like 6 months in jr high. Pretty much she was like, here are some strategies to cope with the bad blocks and THAT brought awareness to where I was blocking, WHAT I was blocking on. It was the beginning of accepting my stutter and exploring it. From that came better fluency. Im never 100% fluent, but if you ask most people - they don't know I stutter. My stoic perspective helps me not get upset when people do point it out. Also, you are growing up in a great time to stutter - I didn't have a cell phone until I was 18. And none of my friends texted for like another couple years. Also, ordering food online (hallelujah)! That's one less thing to worry about. And for the record. I always stutter no matter what/who I talk to. I stutter WORSE when I'm nervous or under stress. This includes poor sleep. So if you are going to uni, make sure you take care of yourself.