postr/StutterMay 20, 2024

Does people say good things to make me feel good because i stutter?

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Does people say good things to make me feel good because i stutter? I recently gave my semester-end viva in college and, surprisingly, I nailed it. I received positive comments like, "He's an intelligent guy" and "Yeah, he is very bright." It's hard for me to digest because I didn't feel like I did anything exceptional. Maybe that's how life is sometimes: you don't get appreciated for your hard work, and other times you get randomly rewarded for doing nothing. Looking back at my first year in college, most professors were really nice to me, except one who occasionally gave me the cold shoulder. He got mad because I was giving him the silent treatment when he asked why I wasn't regular in college. For example, one professor praised my writing twice in front of the whole class and was really nice, even if I hadn't attended his class for weeks. He asked me how I was or even random questions like how the traffic is today, he also told me to never stop my writing. It was really intresting how i met him, i was struggling in my fresher party, two seniors spot me and introduced me with him, it was like plot of, "perk of being a wallflower", so i think he had bit soft spot for me. Another professor mentioned that he liked when I won second prize in an essay writing competition. He also accepted my assignments on the last working day with ease. After my presentation, another professor told the class to stay in touch with me because I was going to be a big editor someday. There was also a professor who didn't teach my paper but came to me randomly and said if I had any problems, I could come to him. When I was presenting my final Vox POP project for one of my papers and felt it wasn't going well, I looked at my professor. His assertive gesture really helped me. Last semester, one of my professors gave me a perfect score on my internal assessment, which was really cool. My classmates have also been supportive. Quite a few of them told me I could come to them anytime if I had a problem. One guy, in particular, initially helped me a lot by repeatedly pointing out that I should look people in the eyes while talking to them. An interesting thing I remember is a guy asking me, "All good, any problem?" I replied, "Yeah, no problem." He then said, "And that's the problem." Although there were a few unpleasant people, they were easily ignorable. And I can't forget Soccer team, it didn't end well as i thought because of internal disputes, but that was the first time in college, i felt i belonged somewhere. College got better with time, lot of people started taking interest on me. You may be wondering, why i am not going to college regularly, i too don't know that, but sometimes it get really harder to continue. There's a pattern in my life that i can see, since some past couple of years, i look miserable, i don't have good reason for that but still i look that way. For instance i have gone to attend a live comedy, i was sitting in front row so like every comedian there comment, what's wrong with me, why i am in depressed state. Also couple of days ago my resident captain sit with me and asked, "why i am like this?" I really hate this guy he hiked my rent significantly, but i can feel that this time he genuinely thinking about me. This part of me really pisses me of that, i can't express myself to other. I am feeling like a Truman that, is my life like a script? And in current chapter i am trying to like myself like Epictetus said, "We suffer not from the events in our lives but from our judgement about them." Even the professor i mentioned earlier also told me to observe myself as i am really good at doing so but stop judging yourself, he too asked me to teach him to how to be peace with oneself regardless of external factors when I wrote about it in assignment. I might have went bit random in my post, but i am feeling better after taking it all out.

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Community & SupportEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

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Validation & EmpathyHope & MotivationIdentity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & Pride