postr/StutterDecember 16, 2020

Lacking conversational skills

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Lacking conversational skills Hello guys, I am 24 year old male living in London. I have had a stutter for most of my life (sucks). As a kid I was outgoing, bubbly and funny. However, as life went on I became more withdrawn and isolated. I developed fear and anxitey towards any kind of social interaction. I feared initiating any kind of conversation or telling a simple story. As a result I lost friends and drifted from family. I struggled with the ability to express myself in words. Others mistook me for being aloof and boring. To make things sound even more depressing, I have been through adulthood so far without any friends. No one to text or hang out with. If I could erase the period of being 18-23 I really would. I didn't know myself. And have so far realised the trauma and affliction and having a stammer has been on my life. I am now on a journey of self development. I have been practicing having conversations with my self lool. And have realised how bad of conversationalist I am. Years of being mute and unsociable have wrecked my ability to speak. Everything comes out as bluur. Whereas in my head I can perfectly articulate myself. Anyone notice how having a stammer has had an impact, on their ability to communicate affectivily.

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & MonitoringHelplessness & AgencyFriendships & Belonging