commentr/StutterMay 4, 2023

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You aren't looking for "most girls". You're looking for one girl. Remember that all people think differently. Grouping girls as thinking one way is completely wrong. Each individual girl will be thinking her own thoughts and determining their own attractions. As a teen I was funny looking, dirt poor and had a stutter that no speech therapy could fix. But after feeling sorry for myself that I'd never have a gf I made an effort to socialise. I joined a couple of school activities. It was at these activities I noticed for the first time a great many girls I'd never seen around school. They'd been overshadowed by the popular girls. This socialisation helped me reduce the terror I had of speaking to girls. People began to get to know me and connections were made. My stutter was cute and made me seem vulnerable which was very attractive to a few girls. We also need to be careful to not blame our stutter for all of our social issues. It's too easy to overlook our other issues and say I stutter therefore no one likes me. But in reality you could have other social issues that can be easily addressed to help you become more confident and attractive to others. Work on your self confidence. Build your self esteem. Develop empathy for the huge variety of young women around you. Get involved in more social situations. A gf is out there waiting for you. But she won't find you if you are moping around feeling sorry for yourself.

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentIdentity & Self-PerceptionDating & Romance

Codes (1)

perceived_judgment