I really just want him to live in the way that makes him happy and at ease, but it seems that for him that is becoming an urban hermit, which unfortunately places all the responsibility of adulting solely on me. The few times in the last couple years I've been able to get him to come to things like the bank I feel like I'm walking a very thin line between being helpful and making him feel emasculated and embarrassed when I speak "for" him. As example, he really has difficulty with numbers, and as he doesn't even actually have a cell phone, if he is asked for his phone number I answer we both just use mine and then give the number. I really don't care about looking like a bitch to whoever is asking, but I don't want to make it more difficult for him for the rest of the interaction. He really cares about not making other people feel awkward or embarrassed for him, which ups his anxiety and that seems to cause him to stutter more. Cue the feedback loop. I think that maybe part of his anxiety is that he feels like his stutter is especially bad, as during his time in the military he was evaluated by a speech pathologist and she told him he has one of the worst stutters that she had encountered, which I don't think was particularly helpful for her to do. I know every one is different, and I have spoken to him and asked what he prefers me to do, like don't try to guess the words when he is stuck on one, which is actually quite difficult for me as I was taught that contributing to a conversation like that is part of "active listening", but I've almost got ride of the habit. I can't seem to get a straight answer out of him on any of his other preferences, though, so I guess I'm just going to have to go with trial and error until I get it right. Maybe I should delete my post here and encourage him to participate the community here, so he doesn't feel like he's the only one. I may have needed to vent a bit and felt that this sub would be a safe place. Whenever I've talked about this whole thing with one of my therapists, they've tended to gravitate towards his stuttering being the problem, when I'm asking about modifying my own behaviour, not how to "fix" my partner. Either way, I do want to thank everyone on this sub for being so open and candid. I don't know if it's because of the verbal communication barriers, but it seems that people who stutter tend to write at a substantially higher level than most. Sorry if that came off as offensive or ignorant.