commentr/StutterApril 11, 2024

Content

That's so amazing that you're conquering your fear and overcoming your obstacles, it's truly wonderful to hear other people are able to do that because it gives me hope for my son, who also has a stutter but is much braver than me about it. My personality now is very much that I want nothing to do with the spotlight or any kind of leadership role. I've *become* a passive person who's perfectly content to take the backseat. As most, or maybe just some, on this sub can relate, my stutter has shaped and changed the foundation of my entire life, to who I am as a person and what career I chose, my relationships, etc. I do ok in normal day to day interaction with people. When what I have to say is spur of the moment, off the cuff conversation I don't stutter too much, or can work around it by changing words and such. But I could never have a career based off me communicating thoughts and ideas that are prearranged and can't be changed. Like teaching, for example. The facts are the facts and there's no rearranging words or backing off and pretending you're stupid and don't know what to say or how to continue. Speaking in front of people creates a very intense, visceral fear inside of me that is completely involuntary, something I cannot control and have not been able to control for my 35 years on this earth. My body being in a constant state of that kind of stress just would not be worth it for me, just so I could say that I'm out-stubborning my stutter. I'm really, really glad other people can though.

Themes

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySchool & Work

Subthemes

Helplessness & AgencyIdentity & Self-PerceptionEmployment & CareerPublic Speaking