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Obviously there’s no “cure”. I stuttered horribly as a kid and eventually it stopped completely. I never thought about it and after years and years (maybe 5th-11th grade or so) I forgot I ever stuttered. Then senior year I went through a lot of things, probably just the stress of trying to get into college, endlessly thinking what I wanted to do with my life and what I wanted to be as a person. I went through an existential crisis, focused way too much what people cared about me and forced myself to try to be someone I wasn’t. My stutter came back worse than it ever was to a point where I couldn’t even talk and thinking and worrying about it made it worse and worse. The weirdest part was that I could talk 100% fine by myself, but when people were around my brain acted different about talking. That proved to me for a fact that it could be gone again so no matter what I talked when I could, never gave up on it. It’s been a few years now and my stutter is almost completely gone (after a lot of thought/soul searching maybe) in most situations. I notice that when I talk with no inhibition it doesn’t even feel like I’m talking, just effortless, no worry of what the people around me think and completely secure with my statements. I don’t know if stutters are a mental or physical thing, maybe it differs from person to person, maybe it’s both. What I do know is that anxiety, depression, and endlessly thinking about the stutter made it worse. So I stopped thinking about it, I lied to myself and thought “Me, no I don’t stutter.” Control your brain, don’t let it control you. Now that I hardly stutter (for now) I realized confidence in yourself goes a long away. Don’t stay silent in fear of stuttering in front of that cool guy or that pretty girl. Don’t think about the stutter. Talk because you have something to say and you want to be heard. Talk because you can. Share your thoughts without fear of judgment and if someone doesn’t like what you have to say, find someone who does. So my advice is: find out who you are as a person and just live your life without fear of what others think, aka confidence. Don’t worry about the stutter because you don’t stutter, aka mental gymnastics. Perspective goes a long way for me, imagine yourself as the person you want to be and you’ll become that person over time. Take control of your brain by lying to it/yourself, almost like a “reprogramming” of sorts. I know it’s not a cure or an end all be all answer, but I hope my perspective helps you see your own stutter in a different light. Best of luck my friend.