To try and make this subject as concise as possible: Great metaphor saying a third party interjecting on a romantic date. When you should be focusing your attention and creating movements on your date with love, the third party may try to convince you to run away by redirecting yourself in a totally new direction of fear, away from your romantic date. The yin and yang are the balance of the opposites and the network you want to be focusing in on is your idea of a clear conversation with that romantic date. You are confident the tao is sending you in the right direction. Hope this can help. In other words changing your habits will inevitably change your neurobrain chemistry.