When it comes to ableism, think of it like two sides of a coin. On one side, there's how **people who stutter (PWS)** might react when others give them advice. For instance, if a parent tells their child to relax or speak more slowly, some children might start feeling like their stuttering is a big issue. This could lead them to have strong emotional reactions or even start applying avoidance (or struggle) behaviors. (You can check out example #1 in this [list](https://thespeechroomnews.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/08/Screen-Shot-2015-08-23-at-9.38.24-PM.png) from the stuttering foundation to see what I mean.) Now, the important thing in that last box, especially the last row, is that we don't have to view such advice (or any reactions for that matter) as if our stuttering is a problem. Basically, the key here is to change our perspective from focusing on how the listener perceives us \[listener-focused\] to how we, as the speaker, see ourselves \[speaker-focused\]. This shift can make a big difference in how we feel about our stuttering and the way we respond to it