postr/StutterAugust 26, 2021

Finally had the courage to walk up and talk to a random woman!! (24M)

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Finally had the courage to walk up and talk to a random woman!! (24M) So here’s the thing, I have a mild stutter. It used to be more severe as a teen but I’ve learned some techniques through speech therapists and singing lessons (singing helped surprisingly well). I’ve also been able to maintain a decent amount of grirlfriends/casual hookups. But I was never the one to initiate the flirting or “first step” with women - I would usually meet them through friends and it would just grow naturally. That being said, I really wanted to be that charismatic guy who could go talk to a random girl at a bar/cafe and chat her up. I guess it’s also because I always wanted to be like my brother but I digress. The point is I wanted to be able to go talk to anyone without the creeping anxiety, body sweats and racing heart kicking in. So earlier today I was working on some stuff at a coffee shop when this beautiful women steps in, and I was like damn. She was exactly my type and just looked super elegant. She sits and i kinda stare at her, she looks back and I keep staring for a sec (lol not in a creepy way though). The whole thing lasted a few seconds. After a while, as she was leaving, I pack my things and catch up with her. I caught up and just pulled a “hey I’ve seen you before “. Somehow I just didn’t think twice and just went for it. And I did even told myself that worst case, I’ll embarass myself and walk away”. And I didn’t stutter, not even once when walked up to her, sweaty, my heart racing. I didn’t even stutter when I told her my name.we talked for a bit about how I may have met her at some point in life in the pst (when in fact I have just moved to this city and know barely one). Then I asked for her number. I may have stuttered a bit when she had a boyfriend . I also might have turned slightly red. And I may have rushed my walk of shame a bit too much whenI realized that my fantasy was not going to be fulfilled. But I had done it! I didn’t get her number but who cares I had the fucking balls to ask a random woman for her number. And it wasn’t even that hard. I walked away with a huge smile. It may have lasted for a good half hour and all I could think about was how I would improve my “chatting up” technique the next time. I’m so proud of myself. **Note** This is the first time I post something like this on Reddit so thanks for patiently reading :)

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Coping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships

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Fluency TechniquesHope & MotivationAcceptance & PrideDating & Romance