commentr/StutterNovember 24, 2024

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Actually I don't do practice it anymore for that exact reason. I think there are better ways to prep for a day like positive affirmations but even that I don't do anymore and just remember what it made me feel and taught me. Just the memory is enough now so far to break out of a negative misunderstanding or distraction. First I had to persevere. If I am really mad over something and self doubt and loathing takes hold of me, I know it's temporary and it's probably not what is swirling in my head. Then I imagine myself and them and realize how little it was and how they probably don't see me the way I saw myself in my own head. If anything they're probably thinking of themselves just as I am and worried how they come across and see me as this bigger hurdle to them. That's the great irony of our doubts and emotions. Everyone's too busy doubting themselves for it to be past our own heads. Bad is what makes good good, and good is what makes bad bad. We need one to even see the other. So if there is self doubt, chalk it up. Good always follows. When you look back on it you'll tend to realize it wasn't so bad to begin with at all. Selling at first strongly felt like I was only as good as my last sale. So not getting the sale or feeling doubt would be hard to break. Then eventually a sale would change that and I'd be in euphoria. Along the way sales I thought I did bad on and lost out called back, complimented me to the office and went with us and I had no idea it went that well! So it's always worse in our heads! Remember that! No need to play along like what's in our heads is the truth, it's NOT! I would say we need to stop assuming the worst and start assuming the best. Eventually it plays out and surprises you. Another way to view it is to feel the self doubt and fear...and do it anyway. Simple.

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Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

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Hope & MotivationAcceptance & Pride