commentr/stutteringAugust 5, 2024

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Are you sure you were refused because of stuttering? I thought as well. But then realized that I was overestimating myself - I mean I was looking for positions that simply were not for me. I don't have a degree so I learned everything about software development myself. I worked for a company where I was almost the only "tech guy" and during the years I learned a lot of things. I improved my programming skills, marketing, tech support, and business in general. For years I have thinking about leaving and finding a better job and I was applying for positions that were out of my knowledge/experience. Then I realized how bad an idea it was and decided to apply for a software tester position. At that time I thought that software tester was an inferior position but, a better salary than I had, easy tasks (for me), working for a stable company, and no responsibility (compared to my previous position). I left that company after six months. I realized that software testing is definitely not an inferior position and I am really good at it because of my previous experience. But the company wasn't good for me (bad practices, outdated technology, somewhat toxic environment). Now I am working in a great company, working on amazing projects. Still learning things and improving myself. I am teaching my colleagues, and presenting my ideas in front of small or big groups of people, I am active in meetings (in fact, sometimes I am the only one who is not able to shut up :-)). **So what about my stuttering?** I don't like it. I am not comfortable speaking in front of people. But I don't care now. I am happy with my job and my colleagues accept me as I am. It's not about how I am speaking but what information I am giving them. See my reply in this post for more details: [https://www.reddit.com/r/stuttering/comments/1dpareo/comment/lav4fn0/](https://www.reddit.com/r/stuttering/comments/1dpareo/comment/lav4fn0/) **What is my suggestion?** As you said, you are looking for your first position and it's always tough. Try to find some companies with internship programs (I bet you tried already). Realize your strengths and skills and rethink the positions - maybe you are looking for a job that requires more than you currently have. Don't be afraid to start "from the bottom" with a lower salary and I bet you will grow faster than others. You will gain self-confidence on the fly and find your ideal job later. - In my first job, I was a part-time worker for a one-month contract. My boss was so satisfied that after two weeks he offered a regular contract for a year. - In my second job, I started as a part-time contractor as well. A few years later I established a new company with my coworkers. - In my actual job, I thought that I would be sitting in the office just doing my tasks but I gained self-confidence and I am one of the most active ones in the way of improving, learning/teaching, ...

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySchool & Work

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. MaskingEmployment & CareerAcceptance & Pride