They say this because they never took the time to imagine how many things it gets in the the way of. They have no idea how all encompassing it can be, how it can absolutely control the direction and quality of your life. I’ve stopped expecting people to sympathize a long time ago, everyone has their own world of problems and struggles. I’ve honestly just learned to accept my hand and deal. My mom stutters, so I’ll talk with her about it from time to time, but dwelling has never helped. I’ve maybe talked to my wife about my speech a few times in our 9 years together. Make do! Don’t feel sorry for yourself! Accept, adapt, and NEVER dwell on the “what if”. Life isn’t fair. Understand that your on your own for the most part. It takes time, but you can learn to departmentalize your feelings about it so the bad days don’t spiral you out. To be totally honest, they are right in a way. I do sometimes find comfort in knowing it could be a lot worse. I could be deformed, missing limbs, mentally incompetent, the list goes on. This has been a source of strength that has taught me to keep going and to be proud of the accomplishments I’ve made despite having a stutter. It’s different for everyone. Best of luck.