OP says "I feel like I’m just not enough." My response was for OP to work on his self, with suggested steps. Then u/Nichtigkeiten waltzes in with your snark about the gym and shopping. Check rule 2. If you aren't here to be supportive, don't detract from those of us that are trying to support each other. Calling other people's advice 'shit', or saying they sound condescending is poor form.