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The root cause of my silence blocks? Silence blocks. In my opinion, it has nothing to do with speaking. It only looks like it is a speech problem. In my opinion, we developed a fear of saying something that will sound bad and we fear the reaction of other people or something like that. Speech blocks are the protective mechanism. I started to have these stupid blocks when I was 15. However, I remember I hesitated before speaking earlier but didn't have blocks yet. Speaking is a tool to tell others our opinions, intentions etc. If you block, you can't say anything and there will be no judgement from others. Why I think this is a real problem (my case): \- I stutter saying things I feel may come across the wrong way, things I feae are socially inappropriate, or things I fear may make me appear weird to the person I was talking to. \- I don't have blocks when speaking with people who are not confident/kids/etc. (They are not confident, low chance they will judge me if I say something 'bad'. Also, I tend to be confident around those people) \- I have blocks when talking to people I feel are 'above me' (They can easily judge me if they are 'above me') \- I stutter when attempting to gain someone's approval. This include trying to make new friends, making a move on girls I find attractive, talking to recruiters and jobs interviews. I stutter less around people I feel i am accepted by such as my family. \- I stutter when speaking in unfamiliar situations or about topics I had little knowledge on. \- I don't stutter when i am angry. (nor caring of others opinion) \- I don't stutter when talking in a silly voice. (Why? Because it's not real me. Also, if I will say something bad everybody knows that I am just kidding) \- I don't stutter when I am reading someone's texts/messages. (It has nothing to do with me so probably that's why) \- I don't stutter when 'feared' word was said. I can repeat it as many times I want. (My intentions are clear now, no need to hold back anymore.) \- I stutter sometimes when someone asks me to repeat what I said. (I stutter in this situations sometimes because I am afraid is sounded 'bad' and that's why they want me to repeat what I said) \- I stutter when starting conversations. (when i start a conversation its all on me) When someone starts a conversation I don't stutter or stutter less. Because is all on them. They have to worry is they can handle in not me. \- I block on words like: my name, my address, my company name etc, (These words usually leads to conversations with others. I block on these words because i don't want to have conversations with people. I have a fear. I don't trust myself. Blocks save me from it. \- I stutter during complex exchanges, such as explaining an idea or opinion I have. (Saying my opinions? No, I have fears, I prefer to hold back. Block). \- I stutter most on important words that carry a lot of meaning and rarely struggle with unimportant filler words. (Fear of judgment/saying something wrong etc.) ​ Summary: In my opinion this is a reason why some people stutter. Expecially, people who have silence blocks only like me. I am not saying it can help everyone as there may be many reason why people stutter. However, I can clearly see that there is a pattern. it doesn't just appear and disappear randomly. For me, there is no logic reason for 'hard' words. When people learn a new language they don't have silence blocks, they simply mispronauce hard word. Also, I have read an article about a guy who cured very sevear silence blocks working on it, where it's all explained nicely. Can anyone relate?