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Pressure and Sex Alright, 22F here, moderate stutter. I'm a virgin, and to be honest it never really bothered me until now. I've never done anything with a guy, but I think I was also unlucky because the guys I did like, are in relationships or didn't like me back or for some reason nothing ever really happened. I've tried to hide my stutter all my life and this has led to insecurity, low self-esteem and in general social anxiety and even depression. I sometimes just don't want to live because of it. The last 7 years were wasted in numbness, and I'm only now starting to realise that I have to start living, but in all honesty I don't want to. Just saying, but love and relationships are the last things on my mind when I genuinely don't want to be alive. Now, my environment has started to pressure me and it's starting to become another insecurity. My parents are always telling me it's time for me to find a boyfriend and have sex basically (which I find embarrassing), they behave towards me like I'm a little naive inexperienced girl because of it and my sisters, especially the younger one has put all these labels on my like Are you asexual? Are you secretly a lesbian? Like you can come out me. Don't you want to have sex? My sister btw (doesn't stutter)lost her virginity out of social pressure at 19, with a guy she barely knew (one night stand)and whom she didn't even tell she was a virgin out of embarrassment. She then just casually screws random guys, whom I personally also find just very low quality people overall. I find her lifestyle as pathetic and insecure as mine, but I don't tell her that. Whilst she does constantly do it and she makes me feel very bad. I've told her it bothers me but she keeps bringing it up, and I'm starting to despise her for that. Its feels like Look, I am better than you attitude. I don't know what to do, I love my sister, and I think she is just immature. I know her words have a truth to it. But as much as I'm trying to explain to her that, I'm barely surviving, like I'm struggling a lot, and sex is the last thing on my mind, she just doesn't seem to comprehend that answer. And the cycle repeats. I genuinely had to go tell my mom I'm not a lesbian, I'm not asexual, I'm just depressed, because I hate those untrue rumours about me. I don't understand why my sexuality bothers them that much. Like why do they care? I've never felt peer pressure and always did my own thing, but now I'm starting to feel so bad about myself. It's like because I didn't have sex, I'm not experienced enough and my opinion have no value. I'm treated like a helpess, little girl. It's not easy navigating life having a stutter, I'm trying my best. I wish she would stop playing the big sister that I never played on her. I find her words patronising rather than well meant.