This hits deep. Very similar situation/ feeling with my stutter. Self conscious and low self esteem are just the results from past trauma from stutter. Don’t let it solely define your life. If you stutter, just continue as normal and don’t show that it bothers you. Have confidence in your voice even if you stutter and less people would care. Honestly, what helps me is knowing that there is a subreddit and that there are people are going through similar situations.