I think I'd prefer the term "deal with". It's less passive - "accept" sounds like just sitting back and not doing anything. I mean, as a _premise_, sure, we _have_ to accept that we stutter. But that's a rather moot action - it's not really a choice - certainly not one that will automagically "heal" anything. So, if we say "deal with" instead, I think it implies more of an effort on our part. As part of that, we could constantly remind ourselves of the premise above, of course. We could try somewhat consoling ourselves whenever a bad situation has happened, in that way. But we could also seek support - like what you're doing now. We could also seek actual help - I don't know if you've tried speech therapy, but that's certainly a thing. We could also try to figure out what our worst causes of distress are, such that we could better understand ourselves and the way we carry our stutter. Maybe we'd be less shocked or surprised that way, when it happens, by being more prepared. I guess you could call this sort of thing "coping strategy", but none of it implies that we're stuck or have to remain in one place. "Accept", to me, sounds a bit like that: staying in one place. I like "dealing with" better. It implies action and change.