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Hey, thank you. And welcome to reddit! I’m happy if my post made you feel a little less alone. Being a stutterer can feel very lonely in general, as we’re not a big percentage of the population. I’ve only met one other person in real life who stutters (although maybe that’s not accurate, since some of us are masters at hiding it). On bad days, I still get very frustrated and hopeless, in a “why can’t I just talk like a normal person?” way. But I'm working on self-acceptance. Since I am decent at hiding it (and hiding *from* it), most people don’t know the impact it has on my life. Some days I’m so self-conscious and hypersensitive to any disfluency that I feel like I’ve totally embarrassed myself even when that's not case. (Not trying to sound self-pitying, btw. Many would say I’m lucky that my stutter isn’t so severe that I *can* mostly conceal it and I get that.) I’m quiet at work as well. I have a work persona. Some people see me as a jokester because I’m always trying to make witty one-liners. These are carefully worded and mentally rehearsed. If I have to have a longer conversation, I often feel like I start to tread water. And yeah, tense situations (like if I have to stand up for myself, for instance) make it so much worse. Those true “wild card” days of fluency are so nice. Sometimes I become really talkative on days like that, in an almost manic way, like I’m releasing all the unsaid words I’ve been holding in for weeks.