My stutter is certainly part of who I am. Despite any fluency I have achieved, my stutter is an integral part of who I am. I understand the concept of "if only X was different", but that's a cop out. At some point, some of us (myself included), surrendered to the stutter. We had something to say, and we didn't, for fear of stuttering. It shakes our confidence. We avoid doing something or going somewhere because of our stutter. Whatever it is, we lose a battle. Then another. And another. But the truth is, it isn't the stutter that stops us from achieving. It's our fear or doubt. Our lack of confidence. Our hyper-critical judgment of our self. Don't give your stutter so much credit / power. It may be a part of you, but you are so much more than your stutter.