postr/StutterDecember 10, 2021

Cried My Eyes Out

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Cried My Eyes Out I had a short presentation for a project at uni today. There were two of us working in collaboration with two other guys, on basically the same topic. The presentation was to be done in a prof's office, with just him and the two of us. I practiced on it for 2 days continuously, and I gave almost everything trying to prepare for it. But before I even started working on the project, I knew there was a chance that I would bomb the presentation so I did 90% of the coding, the presentation material and the report. Not even kidding, literally 90%, while everybody slacked off and didn't have a clue. Come today, I tell my mate to handle the presentation even though I had prepared for it, and I guess because he felt guilty for not having done any of the work, he agreed. We went into the profs cabin, and my friend started the presentation while I was prepping my laptop for the demo. The prof stopped the presentation mid way and asked me to continue. And obviously, nothing good came from this point onward. I stammered, got horrible blocks. The prof thought I didn't know shit and asked my friend to continue. He finished the presentation and I ran the code, showed him the output. He then asked my friend about the code who tried to answer it. He turned to me and asked a question, and even though I knew the answer, cause I had after all written the code and perfected it over and over again, I couldn't get the answers out. He then again moved on to my friend and kept asking him questions. At one point he said to my friend, "The code you've written is good". My mate immediately mentioned that both of us had written it and the prof replied, 'Yeah, I'll decide about that'. My heart literally went to a dark place. I came back to my room, cried my eyes out, shouted at the window 'Why me' and felt like I needed to speak to someone to remain sane, but it's not like I have anybody to talk to :) Thanks for reading, if anyone reaches the end of this.

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Emotional ExperienceSpeech & Stuttering

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Shame & EmbarrassmentFrustration & AngerAnxiety & Social JudgmentSadness & HopelessnessHelplessness & AgencyBlocks & Stoppages