This is kind of turning into a “who has it worse” thread and I think discussions like this could not be more redundant. You see this debate in all corners of reddit and it never goes anywhere because there is no correct answer. Everyone always thinks it’s harder for them. Always. It’s just what people do. You think that because you’re side and you’re struggles are all you know and the grass is always greener on the other side. But you never know what that grass is really like until you actually walk in it, and everyone is ALWAYS surprised how much it sucks if they actually get a chance to. “Men’s flaws are accepted more” they are if the guy has a base level of height, charisma, money, and respect. It’s not like the movies and you have no idea how big the burden of pursuit really is. If you think stuttering is terrifying when a guy approaches you, try not looking like and idiot when you stutter approaching a woman, not to mention having something good/engaging to say to a stranger, while being confident and not scary. It’s a 1000% harder than it looks. “Women have pretty privilege, they don’t have to make the first move In dating” that might help in getting laid but that evens out pretty quickly in regards to finding a life long partner. A guy who’s physically imposing will also have an advantage in demanding respect, at least with interactions with other men to his face. “Women are more critical of themselves, they internalize it more and end up accepting men who don’t deserve them because of confidence issues” This narrative that women are the only ones who struggle with confidence is ridiculous. Confidence is so much more of a requirement for men in the dating world AND male social pecking order, at least half the guys you know who seem confident are faking it because the life of a man who lacks confidence is absolutely terrifying and bleak. You know nothing about men if you think there aren’t a giant percentage of them who settle for terrible women because they don’t think they deserve better. Just stop it. “People are generally nicer to women and are more cautious to make fun of them” Sure, but let’s not pretend it’s not a lot harder for women to be taken seriously, especially outside of the dating world. If it’s already a challenge for a woman succeeding in male-majority fields, a stutter will most likely make it impossible. We all have unique challenges. A discussion about the differences between men and women can be enlightening and give us perspective of on what it’s like to walk in some else’s shoes. A discussion on who has it worse will never end and only creates contempt. There’s ALWAYS a valid counter argument to why you think it’s harder for you, we all need to remember this. I’m a 40 yr man who struggled with my speech my whole life, I figured out my strengths and made due. Growing up, I watched my mom struggle with her speech, find her strengths and make due. We’re all trying to figure how to not let life destroy us, splitting hairs to figure out who has more handicaps is a waste of time and energy and only makes you bitter because you’re always going to think it’s you.