commentr/StutterApril 7, 2021

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Hello. Much has already been said but I shall echo. I think both you your son are off to a great start. I can't imagine how difficult it is for parents, but I can empathize heavily with your son. I would echo the value of speech therapist. I had one from when I was 3 until I was about 17. Obviously that is a huge financial commitment but if you can do it it will help a lot, though it could be well into middle school before results can be seen. I was bri g helped the whole time but I really couldn't feel it working until I was in middle school, and weirdly enough that is when the severity of my stutter peaked. From there it improved rapidly until I finally stopped therapy when I was 16 or 17. I'm 25 now and it's still a daily thing I deal with but speech therapy worked wonders, it was just a long process. I get the sense (from your stories about his alarms and remote learning) that your son is very smart, bright, and mature and those are the kinds of things that are going to transcend the stutter as they develop. My parents were great in that they encouraged me and supported me with my stutter, but they didn't make it my identity. It was a part of who I was but it wasn't the only part. They helped me when I needed it and we discussed it when I wanted to or when they felt the need but more often than not school and homework and friends wasn't flavored with discussions of my stutter. And tbh that helped me set a major tone in my life. It's something to acknowledge and be open to discussion at any time but it doesn't have to be the focus all the time. Ps - I didn't realize breathing in was such a big technique in fluency. I can't speak for just breathing in but one of my most often used techniques is to just stop and take a huge breath. In and out. Fully relax, then keep going. Idk if that's the same as just the "breath in" technique but a full deep breath. Works wonders for me.

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Therapy & ProfessionalIdentity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy

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Seeking TherapyTherapy ExperiencesIdentity & Self-PerceptionMindfulness & Breathing