>*"Without kindness we are nothing but a genetically flawed human beings. The one who will stare into other person's eyes when I am talking. I might not be a settle down material for you."* Woaw I offer a jubilant bow to your eloquence. My soul resonates with the echoing of your words of wonder. I can certainly relate! You're raising a great topic about the identity and [self-image](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stutter/comments/1478o6x/comment/jo080sp/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3). "*Am I a flawed person without kindness?*" "*Where can I find the one?*" Am I a person who stutters or who is fluent? Where do I belong? And quite often a person who stutters might feel that he/she doesn't belong to any of those worlds. I'm not a fluent person because I've just felt the tension or stuttered and that's not what fluent people do. I don't want to stutter, so I don't belong to the stuttering world too. And it might feel quite frustrating when we don't belong. So, I believe that the most important piece of developing a strategy of how to deal with stuttering is to identify the identity you want to have. A unique chance to start feeling that you belong to both worlds is the identity of a person who stutters who is working on its speech. I like it the most. At least, that's my take on it.