commentr/StutterSeptember 5, 2021

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I used to be super embarassed of it when I was young but I feel like most people get used to it as you get older. The important thing for me was forcing past anxiety and not avoiding situations where you may stutter, this avoidance will cause further anxiety down the line. Don't avoid public speaking or customer service jobs etc. as these were great for building my confidence. I also noticed that I rarely stuttered when public speaking or presenting which kind of shows you that you can be 'normal'. If I am having problems with a stutter block at work (I have client meetings almost every day) I usually apologise, laugh and explain that I have a stutter. 99% of the time everyone I met has said that they never noticed it, probably as you get good at hiding it over time. By laughing at it yourself it's not about making fun of it, it also makes the other person feel more comfortable as well, and they know that there is a reason you mess up words every so often. A lot of people might assume stuttering is only when you st-st-stutter however I don't get that much and mostly just get blocks, so it is helpful to explain. I had a lot of phone anxiety previously as it's harder to explain you have a stutter over the phone, but I thought fuck it and applied for my previous job which was a phone customer service assistant. I still had a lot of blocks but it taught me that I can speak on the phone normally and built a lot of confidence. So basically, it will only hold you back if you let yourself be held back. Not to say it's not going to be difficult and awkward at first. My stutter isn't cured and I still have bad days but I no longer live in fear of striking up conversations because 'what if' I stutter.

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentHope & MotivationAcceptance & Pride

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ordering_service_encountertelephone_video