I think people have been told that there's nothing for them, so they must accept their stutter and move on. The issue occurs when, not that stuttering shapes your identity, but when it becomes your identity. Trying to change your stutter to some people may feel like their changing their identity, which leads people to be resistant to treatments that are out there. It is okay to accept your stutter, but still actively seek medical advice on how to treat it. There are options, its not a hopeless endeavour.