I am nearing my 25th anniversary in a few months… I had all those “what if” thoughts at some time… For example, I just couldn’t imagine how I was going to say my vows… I put a lot of unnecessary energy imagining how I was going to cope with such a public embarrassment. My advice… Put down your anxieties. They rob you from a life you deserve. If you have cannot transcend your fears, talk about them openly with your partner. If they don’t understand and want help you… They are not a very good partner and you should give yourself permission to find someone else.