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Insight on stuttering Hey, I´ve been writting a journal on my insights about stuttering and detailing common day´s events that lead me to stuttering. I want to see if I can indentify a patron on my blocking behaviour and get a better undestanding of what causes the block itself. Here is an interesting point of view I write today. Hope you can read it to me and tell me if it make sense or if its resemble with you at any level. "All these factors together make speaking feel like being in a minefield. If I seek the other person's approval, I need to control what I'm going to say. On the other hand, if I speak openly (or fluently), I could step on a mine and blow myself up. A mine represents damaging the other person's ego and consequently destroying mine. To avoid that, I anticipate and start thinking carefully about every word I say, as if I didn't know how to speak. By doing this, I disrupt the body's natural mechanism for speech execution. Consequently, this interruption or blockage occurs and I stammer. I have to let go and allow the body to do what it knows how to do. Trust the process. There's nothing I need to do to be able to speak. It's as automatic as breathing or the beating of the heart. But if I try to interfere, this system stumbles upon itself. To execute the speech system freely, I can't think of speaking with another person as being in this minefield. Otherwise, I'll never let go of the need for control and anticipation. There's nothing I can say that can harm myself or the other person. Not in the physical sense anyways. That's an illusion. There's no need to be afraid. The other person's approval or indifference has no relation to my belonging in the world. Let's walk freely through the field. Someone told us from a very young age that it had mines, and we have never verified if it's true. For the same reason, I feel hatred towards the other person. I feel trapped in their presence. I feel that they have power and control over me. They make me make decisions I don't want to make, and the worst part is that it's not their fault. They don't demand anything from me and yet everything. It's my perception of what the other person wants that has me trapped. I feel that if I don't please them, something bad will happen. Something bad for myself. It's a deeply ingrained fear. A trauma." Thanks for all and take care. Never give up.