Interesting discussion. It is definitely part of my identity but not one I particularly want to keep. It's a convenient excuse for what would otherwise be crappy behaviour like avoiding phone calls and not saying something in a group situation. (One of my biggest regrets in recent years was not calling out a crappy pile-on where teammates where trying to convince a member of the team to do something she wasn't comfortable with.) Sometimes I get a glimpse of my full social potential when I'm having a good day and it's rapid witty quip after rapid witty quip, and someone says "You're actually really funny!" or "I didn't realise how sassy you could be!" because normally my stutter stops those comments being timely so I don't get to make them. Some days I'm content with it because it's not bad and I'm able to comfortably function, but the fact that it may flare up at any time keeps me in panic mode about phone calls and stuff, and that's a pretty crappy way to live.