commentr/StutterNovember 22, 2024

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Local anything is really good! Online, depending on the social media, has a way of getting into peoples heads where we always assume the worst of what people say and it spirals into drama that becomes intoxicating to the point where people get upset when it's deleted to soon before they can really revel in it. In person is the exact opposite. People are on the whole surprisingly caring and compassionate. They just wanna be comfortable and happy and you'll never act the same in person as you do online and everyone will feel human with comradery to you because why not? Definitely put yourself out there in the real world, persevere and keep doing it. Don't fall back onto the screen for social experience, our brain just processes it differently and it can effect our comfort level socially in the real world. A lot of the best feelings I get socially have nothing to do with chatting. I really can care less what we talk about, I just feel comfortable being amongst people. I use hand gestures no matter what I say like putting my hand to my heart and nodding my head. So joining a self help group, any group, or just going out there and enjoying and loving yourself is the best healthy dopamine hit. Meditation for me was positive affirmations I think that helped a lot. I began feeling so good that I felt in the present. Words are powerful. What you say to yourself can have surprising effects. The brain can't really distinguish all that well from whats real and whats in our own heads when it comes to anxiety and so on. We could have panics and suffering of what's not even there in front of us, it just depends on what we replay in our own thoughts. The opposite is true. We can think and talk positively to ourselves. Eliminating the bad influences and addictions in this day and age and replacing them with positive, even challenging things has helped my stutter and far beyond just that. It'll feel like a waste of time dwelling on it eventually but it takes some time to get over something we're so used to worrying about. Let the mind know it's not so bad out there and people aren't inherently aggressive the way we want to be ready for. Our imagination is always worse than the reality, so may as well go out into the reality.

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Coping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance

Subthemes

Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureMindfulness & BreathingHope & MotivationHiding & Concealment