I understand the emotion with which you're writing this, but not everyone is in your boat. The situation differs for everyone, and you have to understand that. One single opinion can never be applied to two persons. Stutter alters the career path, changes relationships, and what not. It's only the people who have experienced it that can write as a victim because they are a victim of it. No one wants to play it deliberately. If a lot of people die or get injured because of a terrorist attack, then they are 'victims'. You just can't tell them not to act as one. And yes, I'm not comparing stutter to a terrorist attack. This is just an example. The reason stuttering feels so heavy when compared to other diseases/disabilities is because it affects you every day and every time you speak. You can have an amazing set of skills, but speaking fluently is a normalcy that is required in day to day life. No matter how much you talk about communication being the focus, you just can't control the other person to be more patient with you or to listen to you. Personally, stutter did change my career path, too. Though I'm doing pretty well in my career but not a day goes by when I don't get affected by my stutter in my professional life. Had I not been one, I know where I could have reached professionally and personally by now.