postr/StutterDecember 27, 2019

What helps me a lot

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What helps me a lot Hi guys and girls. I wanted to share with you about what helps me to be more comfortable with my speech. Hard times help me. I mean, for me being a stutterer, hard times are almost every day, but I'm talking about situations where I have to speak in front of public. This happens very rarely but when it does, I feel much more fluent in the end and I don't concentrate on my flaws and words just come from my mouth by itself. Unfortunately this has a very temporarily effect and after few days (or less) magic disappears. Last year I attended to a family camp to lead a yoga class there every morning for five days. Yoga has nothing to do with my profession, it's just been my hobby for a long time. The beginning of the first class was really awkward. I had blocks while my students were in downward facing dog position. They had to stay there quite a lot :)) But then things got better and I was enjoying my role. I mean, that was just amazing. I tried to copy my yoga teacher's way of speaking. His voice is like thunder, very powerful and mesmerising. I wasn't as good as he, but for me that was more than enough. This year I'm going to repeat this experience but now I lead two classes - yoga and juggling for kids :). Few weeks ago I made here a post and asked whether someone could talk to me in video chat. I got five feedbacks and talked twice with two different people. I really wanted to talk to everyone who answered me but in the end other people disappeared and didn't answer me back. And two guys whom I had a chat with don't want to talk anymore. At least I texted them few times and they said later. I don't want to be a burden, so I stopped texting them. This video-chat experience was new to me and I really liked it. I want to speak to anybody who is interested in such thing. Before the first conversation I was very nervous, I wanted to cancel the upcoming call but I didn't. The second conversation was very much less nervous for me. I haven't had the third conversation but I'm sure if I had it would be even less nervous than the second :) I really don't know why did they stopped talking to me. Maybe it's me, but I tried to be very friendly and I picked topics to discuss in advance to avoid uncomfortable silence. Anyway I'm looking forward to chat with you. Please write me. And thanks for reading this long text.

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityCoping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionSituational VariabilityFluency TechniquesMindfulness & BreathingVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureHope & Motivation

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public_speakingsocializing_one_on_oneemotional_state