How do you reconcile stuttering and being a man?

How do you reconcile stuttering and being a man? As a man, I’m expected to be the “protector” in a relationship. Masculinity is embodied by confidence, charisma and and assertiveness. As a moderate to severe stutterer, I find myself incapable of projecting any of these characteristics. I’m certainly not confident because I’m constantly aware of how challenging it would be to stand up for myself in the case of confrontation. I therefore avoid confrontation. Attempts in the past to argue when I feel like I’ve been wronged have led to my humiliation. I’m certainly not charismatic - I cant’t tell stories, my jokes have the wrong timing, it’s very challenging for me to even effectively communicate basic details to others. No one really pays attention to me and most of what I say is dismissed. Understandably so, I imagine it must be pretty annoying to have to constantly wait for me to spit it out. While I deserve to be treated respectfully, I’m not obligated to people’s time. People tolerate me talking at best. And I’m sure as hell not assertive, I can barely get a word out, and when I do, I come off as a an anxious, stuttering mess... Stuttering is the exact opposite of everything masculinity traditionally embodies. It makes me feel completely emasculated and incapable of being a boyfriend/husband. Has anyone successfully reconciled the two? **I am only asking the opinion of moderate to severe stutterers**.