Hey there, I'm also 21. It's a painstakingly slow process and requires a lot of self reflection. I'm not all the way there myself, but in the past couple of years I've gone from being nearly mute when out in public (but would still be somewhat talkative to friends and family) to cold approaching associates at stores to ask a question, and just last night took a girl to the fair, which was a first for me. The first and probably most important step was realizing that my stutter wasn't what was ultimately causing me not to talk to people. They are definitely connected, but it is also entirely possible for people who stutter to be totally confident speaking to people, as well as for perfectly fluent speakers to be just as fearful as we are. So the two don't have to be connected if, for lack of a better term, we don't let them be. I was sort of thrusted into realizing this. It's too long of a story to go into right now but basically I went to speech therapy and was perfectly fluent for about 6 months but still wasn't capable of talking to anyone (I think I made a post about it back then, scroll through my post history and you might find it). While I was there, an older gentleman gave me some wonderful advice which I'll pass on to you. You're an extrovert. We can easily conclude this because you want to be able to talk to people. If you were naturally an introvert, there wouldn't be an issue, because you wouldn't really want to talk to anyone anyway. That advice paired with the realization that the stutter wasn't the root issue really lit a fire under my ass to put myself out there more. And because of that I am much, much more confident with talking to people than I was just a couple of years ago. It's a really good feeling. My advice to you is, really take what I've said to heart, think about what it really is that's causing your aversion to conversation. You don't have to actually tackle it right now, just stew on it for a while. And when you're ready, just talk. Talk, talk, talk as much as you can. If you're in college, join a bunch of clubs, or even a fraternity. I ended up in a fraternity on accident and it might be one of the best things I ever did for my confidence. Just find ways to place yourself in as many speaking situations as possible. And, with enough exposure, you'll numb to it a little bit. And a little more. And once you're nice and comfortable, hell, you might even enjoy it a little bit. I always assumed the "eventually you'll stop caring" thing was going to be like flicking a light switch flicking in my brain, but in hindsight that was silly. Just like anything else in your body, you have to work on it over time. Like going to the gym to build muscle. Keep at it, and eventually you might just get there. Good luck