commentr/StutterJuly 26, 2021

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Thank you very much for spreading the knowledge. I also checked your other post and I agree 100% you, after all these years of speech therapy and base my whole day or even my self worth on how fluent my speech is, I finally see a light. I Also read the John Harrison's book and couple of others about stuttering and it's been a life changing. But some things didn't felt alright. In daily basis I kept that stuttering mentality that I must keep fluency to prove my self to others and to myself. I kept thinking how I am going to make that phone call tomorrow, how I am going to speak to clients at work, how I am going to order coffee etc. But that's not how people speak, they don't think how to place their tongue on their mouth they just speak! I know I can do it I know you can do it, your body knows it very well. But what was really life changing for me and I am working on it is that I didn't express my feelings, I was and I am embodie them and that puts pressure on me chest, neck, mouth etc and give me the stuttering. So I am trying to express those feelings and I feel really well. Also I am trying to think like a fluent speaker and I don't judge strangers if they make a little fun of my stutter because they DON'T KNOW THAT I HAVE A SPEECH DISFLUENCY FOR 20 YEARS and they assume that it was an accident. People also make repetitions, prolongations and hesitations and it's part of the speaking GET USE TO IT AND DON'T THINK THAT YOU ARE SPECIAL. If I really feel that I must inform them that I have a speech disfluency I do it and I just keep the conversation. People are really curious about things that they don't know and if you feel really comfortable with your problem and inform them, believe me they will feel empathy. So I am fighting everyday like an addict , I count my progress my fluency and I base everything on it. If I stutter I am worthless If I don't I will be loved. So guess what I am not gonna do this anymore I have a voice, I am not going to compress and embodie my feelings because speaking is about expression and I am going to be free from this stuttering mind. Thank you for reading this

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Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilityTherapy & Professional

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Mindset shiftIdentity & Self-PerceptionTherapy ExperiencesPositive Therapy Techniques