I really think this is a really important question. I'm pretty satisfied in my self-acceptance. I still stutter, I acknowledge when I stutter, I occasionally get frustrated by stuttering. But I accept it all without judgement, even the frustration. What really helped me was redefining my definition of "failure." I fell into the thinking that a lot of people do. Fluency (or at least not stuttering) is what success is. Therefore, stuttering, by definition, is failure. Every time I stutter I fail. This cycle is repetitive and nonfunctional. The only way to win at this game was to never talk. This wasn't an option for me. In my mind achieving success should be something that requires courage and determination. Not stuttering is easy: just don't talk. But talking in spite of stuttering is scary, difficult and stressful. To talk in spite of stuttering is the real success. Thus, my definition of "failure" become when I choose to not engage in conversation for fear of stuttering. With this model I actually got successes!! Whether that was talking in class, talking to a guy in a bar, or even just ordering at a restaurant. The successes added up. I still failed. I continue to fail. I failed tonight. But I don't fail every day. And I don't judge myself for failing. Now, I'm comfortable stuttering. I'm not embarrassed or ashamed to stutter. I get frustrated; not out of failure. But because stuttering is hard work and sometimes I just wish talking could be easy.