In response to your bonus question: If I’m taking a long time to say something I prefer people to look down towards the floor. I know it sounds weird but if they’re looking at me I feel more awkward as they can see that I’m stuck rather than just hearing it. I also don’t like it if they look around or look past me, as I get anxious that they’re distracted so will ask me to repeat what I’ve said. I also like when people try to ‘help’ by saying the word that they think I’m trying to say. But only one word at a time, not just saying loads of words at once and hoping one is right. I don’t like it when people do this as soon as I’m stuck, I prefer a few seconds to pass first. This is in an ideal world, I don’t expect everybody to cater to what I want. This is just what I prefer to happen if I were to have the choice. I understand that I may in the minority here (or am I? I don’t really know) so don’t take this as a 100% ‘this is what you should do’